Last week we saw teeny snippets of Keira Knightley’s wedding to James Righton of Klaxon fame. So as I type I think it’s only fitting to listen to some MC Solaar.

I’m not particularly a fan of Keira, but I do love the way she stands up for small breasted ladies everywhere! And I have to confess I loved her nuptials in Love Actually (not so much the stalker part but the amazing Lynden David Hall part).

And so the wedding. The press loved it because it was relatively subdued and in a time of fiscal issues going all out is seen to be a sin.

She looked like a very happy lady on the way to the Hôtel de Ville, a lady who is oft surrounded by excess the laid back affair must have been incredibly appealing. (Although note her jacket was Chanel, her guests were elites and we no nothing about the wedding reception where they could have been drinking virgin’s blood from the skulls of Somali pirates with their heads high after quaffing Ortolan). I just don’t know.

But should we all move to the laid back affair?

I would like to counter that such “celebrities” live in a different world. Perhaps with their hearts beating in a different way. Each year in the glare of the world is the equivalent of 7 years. I’m not suggesting that they are dogs, but the way they move through life with engagements, divorces and other relationships is on a different plane to us mere mortals.

I think it’s why they seem to speed through relationships. After the human equivalent of 10 years together, they have been faithful and lived an entire life with their partner. Of course they might want to shake things up a little. I imagine the 7 year itch after just one rotation of the earth around the sun is excruciating and in a world of temptation can they really be blamed. Is forever, really forever?

To be part of the A list, no matter how hard you try, means that the rules don’t really apply. Each day for them could be a wedding day for us. Their Oscars are our wedding. Each day at work could be better than most of our weddings. So of course they would want to eschew the ridiculous excess which they experience on a daily basis. (We are excluding any Kardashian in this. 1. Because they aren’t real people and 2. They are not celebrities).

So yes, let’s applaud Keira for having the wedding she wanted (assuming it was the wedding she wanted) and again emphasise that you should have the wedding you want. Yes there will always be sacrifices, even if you elope, but work on what’s important to you.

What is important to you, being surrounded by 8 or 800 people? The dress, the shoes, the matching napkins? Is spending money important because you want your wedding to look like the magazines or actually because it’s an experience you want to treasure.

Honestly, I really wouldn’t change that much about my wedding. Yes it’s a huge amount of money. Yes it is just one day and yes it is not the be all and end all. But, and this goes sort of against everything I’ve ever thought, go big if you want to (and can afford it). It is just one day but you are allowed to treat yourself and your loved ones.