We’re all here to get married right?
Whether you be gay or straight you want to be married. Well if the statistics are true, there were 88,000 more gay men and women who entered into a civil partnership since 2005. (The government predicted 22,000 and there were more than 100,000!)
Equality is very important to me. Well it should be important to everyone. Why should a gay man have different legal obstacles to a straight man.
Indeed this picture (which I assume I stole from Buzzfeed) highlights what I think beautifully.
Yet whilst I bang on about equality perhaps I forget what it actually means to be married. I know I have guffawed at the concept of becoming a civil partner in the past. Indeed I would still say I am not a cowboy, Bean is not my partner.
So what I really want to talk about today and in the future is the term marriage.
What I hadn’t really taken on board was how religious the term marriage was. Perhaps I hadn’t appreciated how religious marriage really is?
The other day I was chatting to someone at an event and she happened to mention she had just got “married”* to her girlfriend and the pervading thought within her peer group is that marriage is word that should be taken as a choice. Indeed why should a community fight for the right to be “married” when they are shunned by the “Church.” Why would anyone want to be part of an archaic system?
I’m not religious, I was married in a civil ceremony and it is something that struck a chord with me. Is the word marriage so deeply entrenched in ancient mysticism? I certainly don’t want to be part of a civil partnership, it’s just such a cold and and clinical phrase. Though I do enjoy being called a wife.
Is there a happy medium or another choice?
*Yes or no to the quotation marks? I would usually say no. But now? Hmm.